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LOL - I heard a radio commercail mention bean dip and it surpised me. I completly forgot that it is somthing peole eat - not just a maetaphor!

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this is very timely for me...the ILs are visiting tomorrow and they are always phoning/sending me letters with their well-meaning detachment advice. When i was 4 months pg they insisted on showing us (with very precise instructions) how to prepare formula...as if we would remember 5 months later!!!

I guess they are like that so that i learn to be more gracious. :O

i'll really have to remember the bean dip tomorrow

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hehe :giggle I was reading this thinking that you were going to flood her inbox with articles and links to bean dip! :beandip2 Now that would throw her for a loop! ;)

http://www.all-creatures.org/recipes.../dip-cpwkb.jpg

http://www.snydersofhanover.com/imag...0Dip-small.gif

http://www.modernfoods.net/images/be...cana_title.gif

Sorry... sometimes I just get in silly moods! :mrgreen

I have long used the line "It works so well for us! Thank you!" . Next time I'll offer it with a side of bean dip. ;)

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I'm gonna have to quote you when my mom visits about me parenting and her just enjoying, that's such a gentle yet firm way to leave no wiggle room around it.

Thanks so much Crystal for your insight. Especially about learning to know when to share info. and letting people learn the hard way sometimes like we all have to. Wise woman you ;)

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Wow, the whole bean dip idea, and this explanation, are like an epiphany for me! For the past several years, one thing I have been learning and repeating in conversation is, "I am not God." So simple, but for me, a planner and doer and checker off of lists, this has been a very big lesson. I'm thinking maybe there is another lesson here, though. Not only am I not God the Father, maker of all things, knower of the future and uberplanner of the world, and the One in charge; I am also not the Holy Spirit, educator, inspirer, and guide to all around me, the One in charge of letting people know where they have strayed off the path....hmmmm.... this may take a while to sink in :)

~becky

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Thank you for this post! My biological mother was quite punitive in her discipline of me, so being here has been a LOT of help while I am becoming ever more graceful in the discipline of my kiddos. She lives eight hours away and is fussing at me that my youngest is still on the "t*****" (not sure if that word is allowed on the board, but I don't like it). Not sure how to "offer bean dip" when we're on the phone, LOL!

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Thank you for this advice. I come from a family that is extremely opinionated and judgmental. I already have them telling me how to live my life and I do not even have any children yet. It is something both me and my fiance are extremely nervous about when it comes time for us to have children. This advice is extremely helpful.

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Perhaps have a list of fun, interesting topics to bring up only at these times, keep a few details on what your daughter has been learning/doing to yourself and bring up when distractions are needed? As well as be willing to get off the phone if she won't let the topic rest. I hope that helps!