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marbles 05-14-2019 01:42 PM

"How do you discipline your child?"
 
When you take a child to a mental health provider, sometimes also just the pediatrician though then it's not as in depth, they ask "how do you discipline your child? What works/doesn't work?" Even worse, it's often on a form. I never know how to answer this question. Since it's for a mental health provider, they want more than just "I don't spank". That response is fine for the pediatrician, she's always visibly relieved when I assure her we don't do that and then she moves on. But the therapists want more information and now I'm looking at a form for a psychiatrist with this question and I can't think of something succinct that says what we do. "teaching, practicing, making amends"? How do you answer this? We don't spank or do a traditional time-out but we do discipline and require a level of cooperation and obedience (though we don't use that word often) so I have a hard time communicating that.

Virginia 05-14-2019 01:45 PM

Re: "How do you discipline your child?"
 
Are there any modern “buzz words” that would convey your discipline techniques without being too cumbersome?
Attachment parenting
Respectful parenting
Responsive parenting
Parenting with an emphasis on emotional regulation, awareness, and intelligence
Following the whole brain child method
Non-punitive parenting





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marbles 05-14-2019 01:49 PM

Re: "How do you discipline your child?"
 
When I first answered attachment and gentle parenting, I was asked what that was, so I haven't used it again. I've just always kinda floundered and said a whole bunch of things :) I would love some buzzwords that would mean something to the psychiatrist.

Aerynne 05-14-2019 01:50 PM

Re: "How do you discipline your child?"
 
Logical consequences is what I would say personally.

tazmom 05-14-2019 02:28 PM

Re: "How do you discipline your child?"
 
Positive discipline
Reasonable and related consequences

MudPies 05-14-2019 02:34 PM

Re: "How do you discipline your child?"
 
We say positive discipline

MegMarch 05-14-2019 04:00 PM

Re: "How do you discipline your child?"
 
I say "positive parenting, using logical or natural consequences as needed."

CelticJourney 05-14-2019 05:20 PM

Re: "How do you discipline your child?"
 
I'd be tempted to say "pretty well, if I say so myself" :giggle

Virginia 05-14-2019 05:22 PM

Re: "How do you discipline your child?"
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by marbles (Post 6180476)
When I first answered attachment and gentle parenting, I was asked what that was, so I haven't used it again. I've just always kinda floundered and said a whole bunch of things :) I would love some buzzwords that would mean something to the psychiatrist.



Um that’s really weird to me because attachment theory should be very well known to psychiatrists... hmm...


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Aerynne 05-14-2019 05:58 PM

Re: "How do you discipline your child?"
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Virginia (Post 6180498)
Um that’s really weird to me because attachment theory should be very well known to psychiatrists... hmm...


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It may be that lots of people use those terms to mean very different things.

marbles 05-14-2019 06:42 PM

Re: "How do you discipline your child?"
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Aerynne (Post 6180504)
It may be that lots of people use those terms to mean very different things.

I think that's the issue, the term can be vague, and there are "levels" to it. I like positive parenting, with natural or logical consequences. I think that would give someone an idea :think

Beth1231 05-14-2019 08:57 PM

Re: "How do you discipline your child?"
 
I put “logical/natural consequences” on a form for my son’s then Kindergarten teacher.

MariJo7 05-15-2019 12:28 PM

Re: "How do you discipline your child?"
 
If the therapist really does not know what attachment parenting is maybe you could advise him a good book to read about it.

Soliloquy 05-15-2019 03:37 PM

Re: "How do you discipline your child?"
 
Firm boundaries on non negotiable issues, which we try to keep to a minimum.

Discussion and trying to come to mutual agreement on the rest.

Natural and logical consequences.


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