Originally Posted by FlyingBlueKiwi (Post 6228940)

Elizabeth Pantley as an alternative resource.

Originally Posted by Beatrice (Post 6228974)

This mom that you mention really needs help. It's one of the most dangerous sources that can find in my opinion. I think you should talk to her and explain it. Hope everything is going to be okay.

Originally Posted by rjy9343 (Post 6229013)

I had the world champion for worst sleeper. There is a reason I have five years between my children and even at ten and five, they wake up at night. I get the why behind it, she's desperate for sleep. I completely understand why she would even consider it.

That being said, I never did it. For Ivy, I took the side off of a crib and put it against my bed and I think we tied the legs to the bed, but it's been so long I can't remember. For Jacob, I put a bedrail on a very firm twin mattress and put it against my bed. Both of them would need to nurse frequently, but slept much better because they didn't have time to fully wake up and fell back asleep while nursing. I usually fell asleep pretty quickly afterwards and was much less tired.

Assuming her baby isn't dealing with colic, allergies, reflux or other medical issues, then her baby might just need to be reassured that everyone is still there and he or she is still safe. That's normal and baby will outgrow it.

I guess my point is to give you something a friend tried and liked. CIO isn't the answer, but it's a very socially acceptable thing to do, so here we are. Add in a the moral issues that BW and others assign sleeping through the night, then it's very hard not to do it.

Originally Posted by Aerynne (Post 6229019)

I see babywise recommended a lot. Also I feel like bedsharing is under huge attack lately. When we started people thought it was weird. Now I hear more stuff like that it isn’t safe and if you really love your baby you won’t do it. We still do it.

Originally Posted by Soliloquy (Post 6229028)

A bassinet next to the bed, a crib next to the bed, or a co-sleeper are all safe options for those who don't want to bed share.

I had a Snuggle Nest with my first and it kept me from going insane. I was so afraid of rolling on her, as she was my first. She would not stay asleep unless I was touching her. I went the first 3 days of her life without sleep. I sent my DH to the store and told him not to come back until he found one. (Mine looked different than this one but it's the general idea.)

When she got too big for it we bought an Arm's Reach Co-Sleeper. It can be used as a regular pack 'n play, too. I also used that with my second baby and our first was still in our bed when he was born.

This one looks good, too. https://www.amazon.com/RONBEI-Bassin...xpY2s9dHJ1ZQ==

Originally Posted by SewingGreenMama (Post 6229020)

Yes. It is under HEAVY attack.
It was a forbidden topic in one of my due date groups because it always caused an outright war.
Another one was better moderated so it was permitted with restrictions or the thread closed. Those who are against bed sharing are militant about it, which is why I'm always hesitant to say anything online, some insane people go real life, and most who think bedsharing is dangerous aren't calm about it.

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Originally Posted by Soliloquy (Post 6229028)

A bassinet next to the bed, a crib next to the bed, or a co-sleeper are all safe options for those who don't want to bed share.

I had a Snuggle Nest with my first and it kept me from going insane. I was so afraid of rolling on her, as she was my first. She would not stay asleep unless I was touching her. I went the first 3 days of her life without sleep. I sent my DH to the store and told him not to come back until he found one. (Mine looked different than this one but it's the general idea.)

When she got too big for it we bought an Arm's Reach Co-Sleeper. It can be used as a regular pack 'n play, too. I also used that with my second baby and our first was still in our bed when he was born.

This one looks good, too. https://www.amazon.com/RONBEI-Bassin...xpY2s9dHJ1ZQ==