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GCM_Sticky 07-04-2007 01:40 AM

Gentle/Positive Discipline Books
Please share your favorite gentle/positive discipline book. Also, feel free to post a review of any of the books listed below. :-) Thank you to everyone who has contributed to this list. :heart


Bailey, Becky - Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline;%22 (See past discussions about this book.)
Budd, Linda - Living With the Active Alert Child: Groundbreaking Strategies for Parents;%22
Chou, Grace P. - Disciplining Children with Confidence
Clark, Jean Illsley - Self-Esteem: A Family Affair and Time-In: When Time-Out Doesn't Work;%22
Clarkson, Clay - Heartfelt Discipline: The Gentle Art of Training and Guiding Your Child;%22
Clarkson, Sally - The Ministry of Motherhood: Following Christ's Example in Reaching the Hearts of Our Children
Cohen, Lawerence - Playful Parenting;%22
Colorosa, Barbara - Kids Are Worth It
Crary, Elizabeth - Dealing With Disappointment


Faber, Adele and Elaine Mazlich -How To Talk So Your Kids Will Listen and Listen So Your Kids Will Talk and Sliblings Without Rivalry
Flower, Hillary - Adventures in Gentle Discipline


Gordon, Thomas - Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children;
Kimmel, Tim - Grace-Based Parenting
Kurcinka, Mary Sheedy - Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles and Raising Your Spirited Child


Lutton, Crystal - Biblical Parenting and Grace-Based Living.
McKay, Matthew - When Anger Hurts Your Kids
Nelsen, Jane - all Positive Discipline books (note: the ones for younger children are not AP), and Jodi's fav Positive Discipline A to Z
Neufeld, Gordon and Gabor Mate - Hold On To Your Kids - jujubnme says, "He talks about parent-orientation vs. peer-orientation. Very insightful, and good information on parenting from connection. Although it applies for all ages, it's an excellent resource for parents of school-aged kids."
Pantley, Elizabeth - Kid Cooperation: How to Stop Yelling, Nagging & Pleading and Get Kids to Cooperate - kauaidee says, "She does recommend time outs but I found overall her discipline style very gentle. It is one of the most practical books I've read which is what I need right now. I feel like I've got the concept of GBD down but I need ideas and this one gave me lots. Plus she also had a chapter on dealing with anger as a parent which is something I struggle with."; The No-Cry Discipline Solution; and Perfect Parenting: The Dictionary of 1,000 Parenting Tips


Sears, William - The Discipline Book and The Successful Child
Tobias, Cynthia Ulrich - You Can’t Make Me But I Can Be Persuaded
Turansky, Scott and Joanne Miller - Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining and Bad You and Your Kids


Whitehurst, Teresa - Jesus on Parenting
Wyckoff, Jerry and Barbara C. Unell - Discipline Without Shouting or Spanking

Not discipline but awesome for every parent:

DeBecker, Gavin - Protecting the Gift
Cloud, Henry and John Townsend - Boundaries - cornflower says, "I've heard that Boundaries with Kids is punitive, though, so perhaps stay away from it."
VanVonderen, Jeff - Families Where Grace is in Place

For kids:

Bang, Molly - When Sophie Gets Angry--Really, Really Angry...
Fox, Mem - Harriet You'll Drive Me Wild! - ShangriLewis says, "It's about a mom who yells after having a lot of patience with a normal little girl, and then they have a big pillow fight. I'm not sure if everyone would like that or not. But, it was good for us because yelling is my downfall. I read that one and the Molly Bang one everynight for Porter for almost 2 years. He loved those books and they were good for me, too."
Joose, Barbara M. - Mama, Do You Love Me? - jujubnme says, "A little Native Alaskan girl asks her mother if she loves her and quizzes her about a bunch of 'what if' situations--one of my favorites: 'What if I put salmon in your parka, ermine in your mittens and lemmings in your mukluks?' The mother answers 'I would be angry [or surprised, worried, etc. in other scenarios]. But still I would love you.' It's very sweet and Julius liked all the arctic animals."

katiekind 04-15-2010 09:57 AM

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I would add:

Campbell, Ross - How to Really Love Your Child

lmd0137 10-18-2010 09:47 AM

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Thanks so much. It is really great to find a list of resources.

BriansLovie 12-03-2010 12:04 PM

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I would like to recommend "Discipline Without Distress: 135 tools for raising caring, responsible children without time-out, spanking, punishment or bribery" by Judy Arnall

mezzBreath 07-03-2011 09:46 PM

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anyone know about "parenting is heart work"?

daughteroftheking3 07-12-2011 08:08 AM

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This list is so helpful! I have been hunting for some good books on gentle discipline!

mrsd 07-12-2011 10:22 AM

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Thank you for posting such a complete and well researched list. :cool

sweetpeas 08-07-2011 07:43 AM

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Originally Posted by aboobieaday (Post 4010858)
anyone know about "parenting is heart work"?

I don't have the book, but I have the CD set and it has helped me SOO much! It's essentially a "prequel" to "Say Goodbye to Whining . . ."

Amahoro 08-07-2011 02:38 PM

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I would like to recommend Pinky McKay. An Australian IBCLC and 'go to' woman on all gentle parenting concepts.

Her books include Parenting By Heart, Toddler Tactics, Sleeping like a Baby and 100 Ways to Calm the Crying.

She also has a lovely Facebook page & website & has occasional free teleseminars on parenting topics (sleep, breastfeeding, early days, discipline, toddler issues etc) and I have found them incredibly helpful.

She also has a 'mummy mentoring' program you can subscribe to in order to get more personal assistance.

I just love her!

Denee 08-29-2011 04:49 PM

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Pinky McKay. I will def. look her up on facebook. Thank you!

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I agree!!! yay!!! I'm so glad I found this page.

Denee 09-01-2011 08:37 AM

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Does anyone have a review on any of the above books? Which ones have really helped you? Which would you recommend? I ordered a few on amazon and was wondering if I should get more based on what has helped others.

juliew 09-02-2011 07:57 PM

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I would highly recommend How to Really Love Your Child, by Ross Campbell. It really shaped my thinking when I first read it years ago.

R7blessings 12-14-2011 12:50 PM

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I wanted to add my favorite--

Listening to Children series by Patty Wipfler at Hand in Hand Parenting Website--- Awesome!!
If you could just have 2 books--- I would say .....
1. Listening to Children Series of booklets by Patty Wipfler
2. Connection Parenting by Pam Leo 02-07-2012 09:26 PM

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I'm so glad many of these are available at our local library!

triscuit 05-27-2012 09:53 PM

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I've started reading Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn. Anyone else read it, what did you think? I really, really like it so far! :)

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