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knitlove · 08-29-2020, 06:52 AM

Even if I take all the books out of her room I think she will be likely to go there and randomly squeek for hours.

I really do get that I need to set a boundry of how she treats me but is there a way to do it and still get her though 6th grade or so I just give up and plan on doing this work over two or three years if she chooses to spend all day in her room doing nothing because she is mad at me?

The few times so have done that of jsut sent her off when she comes back if I do anything aproching the picking up where we were she is right back at it freaking out.

Honistly I think that is why I haven't been sending her off because I feel like it just delays sthe fight that she is going to out up to get what ever it is done. And I ( in my just suck it up and get it done) would rather just deal with her screaming at me in home go for an hour or so and then actually be get things done than have it spread out over the whole day where I can not ever move on to the next thing I want to do because everytime she comes out I have to pick up school work with her.

The more I write this out the more the more that I need to just let her not get 6th grade done and have to do it over several years. Which will be its own huge fight with her because she won't be moving on to anything new at the end of the year.

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08-29-2020, 06:52 AM	#80
knitlove Rose Garden Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Seattle area Posts: 21,260	Re: I thought grace baised parenting would show fruit Even if I take all the books out of her room I think she will be likely to go there and randomly squeek for hours. I really do get that I need to set a boundry of how she treats me but is there a way to do it and still get her though 6th grade or so I just give up and plan on doing this work over two or three years if she chooses to spend all day in her room doing nothing because she is mad at me? The few times so have done that of jsut sent her off when she comes back if I do anything aproching the picking up where we were she is right back at it freaking out. Honistly I think that is why I haven't been sending her off because I feel like it just delays sthe fight that she is going to out up to get what ever it is done. And I ( in my just suck it up and get it done) would rather just deal with her screaming at me in home go for an hour or so and then actually be get things done than have it spread out over the whole day where I can not ever move on to the next thing I want to do because everytime she comes out I have to pick up school work with her. The more I write this out the more the more that I need to just let her not get 6th grade done and have to do it over several years. Which will be its own huge fight with her because she won't be moving on to anything new at the end of the year. Sent from my Pixel 2 XL using Tapatalk __________________ Wife to a wonderful DH for 19 years. Momma to my 29 weeker Early Bird who is thirteen and my little Wiggle Worm born 33 weeks who is nine. How do I have a teenager?! I don't feel ready for this.

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