I know someone has a link to Samuel Martin's book "Spare the Rod"--I think it's posted in GD
I talk about this more in my second book Grace-Based Living
I do find it much more loving to think of my children as "babies" until age 6. 5 is a great big transition from preschooler to kid and then there is a huge maturity surge with my children around age 8 (they change at 7 but not as much as at 8
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