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Old 07-19-2011, 11:01 AM   #63
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Default Re: "Is This Punitive?" is missing the point of GBD

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Originally Posted by bolt. View Post
It doens't require a consiquence to teach a child that 'no means no' -- all it requires is the parent making sure that every time they say 'no' the thing they said 'no' about does not occur. Then it becomes perfectly obvious what 'no' means... it means that the thing is absolutely not going to happen.

(Of course, 'no' is a fairly vauge word... it's not exactly easy to obey the word 'no' without processing the context and making a guess about the parent's implications. Many children find more specific instructions easier to follow -- such as 'stop' - 'be still' or 'hands off'.)
I do specify. Rarely do i even say "no" rather I say why she ought not to do what she wants.
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