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Old 03-25-2005, 10:19 PM   #5
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Default Re: Bean Dip

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Originally Posted by jadensmom

I do talk to people about my parenting choices and offer advice, books, links, etc. But, I do it *once* and see how they respond. It's often couched as "this is what works for me." Some parents are interested....some new moms are bf and anti -CIO over it. Some parents are Pearl or detached and don't want to hear it. If someone is not interested, I don't follow with more. I don't bombard them with GBD/AP things...we just continue our friendship. I've had it done the other way, too....people offer things from the other end of the parenting spectrum. Bean dip works very well to let them know I'm not interested.

I feel it is a respectful way to handle it - I don't mind if someone mentions Ezzo or Pearl *once* and doesn't push it.

So I guess my question is, why don't you advise to do so? Am I missing something? Or did you just mean don't be overzealous and try to convert everyone else to our POV?

Not being snarky - I'm genuinely curious. I want to be the best "light and salt" I can be
I used the word "unsolicited". In the context of a discussion about parenting choices, offering "We practice AP" is appropriate. In a friendly, ongoing conversation, offering book titles, web sites, etc is appropriate.

What's not appropriate is hearing a woman talk about scheduled feeding and then sending her, unasked, a bunch of links about not scheduling nursing. It's the same thing as relatives and friends sending us, unsolicited, articles about the dangers of co sleeping.

It's not respectful. And we can't let the fact that we are right change the fact that we can't assert our boundaries and trample on other peoples.
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