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COTK · 06-10-2011, 09:37 PM

Maggirayne, I saw this because of your

!

Crystal, you said we need to get to the point where we are the adult we want them to be......that is *such* a great thing to hold in our minds...

one thing that I want to learn to do is have amazing conversations with my dd during those teaching moments... how do I learn to do *THAT* without an example to see? Some of the conversations you've had with your kids that I've read in your writings just make me

... you are so incredibly skilled at breaking things down to their level, but not "dumbing" it down... is there a book I can read or something? I so long to be a wise teacher, to help her make sense of life...but I don't even understand most of life right now......

My inner voice speech I'm developing for when I am in a frustrating situation with her is getting longer and longer... so far I have,

"She's four!! She's just four. Four!!! She doesn't *know* everything I think she knows! She is just trying to communicate her needs, like a baby that cries for everything, only she has some words now. But she is still learning how to get her words, thoughts, and actions lined up right. I am, too and I'm 30 for goodness sake! What does she need right now? Relationship, relationship, relationship, relationship!!!"

Ok, that's the long version... the quick-get-my-blood-pressure-down-before-I-lose-it version would be,

"She's four!!! Relationship, relationship, relationship!!!"

(Thanks to this thread.

)

06-10-2011, 09:37 PM	#51
COTK Rose Bouquet Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Iowa Posts: 963	Re: "Is This Punitive?" is missing the point of GBD Maggirayne, I saw this because of your ! Crystal, you said we need to get to the point where we are the adult we want them to be......that is such a great thing to hold in our minds... one thing that I want to learn to do is have amazing conversations with my dd during those teaching moments... how do I learn to do THAT without an example to see? Some of the conversations you've had with your kids that I've read in your writings just make me ... you are so incredibly skilled at breaking things down to their level, but not "dumbing" it down... is there a book I can read or something? I so long to be a wise teacher, to help her make sense of life...but I don't even understand most of life right now...... My inner voice speech I'm developing for when I am in a frustrating situation with her is getting longer and longer... so far I have, "She's four!! She's just four. Four!!! She doesn't know everything I think she knows! She is just trying to communicate her needs, like a baby that cries for everything, only she has some words now. But she is still learning how to get her words, thoughts, and actions lined up right. I am, too and I'm 30 for goodness sake! What does she need right now? Relationship, relationship, relationship, relationship!!!" Ok, that's the long version... the quick-get-my-blood-pressure-down-before-I-lose-it version would be, "She's four!!! Relationship, relationship, relationship!!!" (Thanks to this thread. ) __________________ COTK: "Child of the King" Cayley Wifey to my high school sweetheart--16 years! Mommy to Lucy--10 years, and Jacob 2 years!

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