[Elibellamiah]

I posted a while back about sleep issues with my 2 year old. I'm really desperate at this point. I'm going to have my baby in the next 2 to 4 weeks and I can't be up every couple of hours with 2 different kids. If Dh tries to get up with him in the night he screams hysterically for me. He has to lay down with me and rub my hair to fall alseep, which I kind of like and don't mind doing, the problem is he only stays asleep for maybe 2 hours. I can't sleep all night in his bed with him, in fact at this point I can't sleep all night in a bed at all. I'm more comfortable on the couch because I need the support of the back of the couch. I tried putting a mattress down next to me for Jeremiah, but he refuses to sleep on it, he has to be physically touching me all night long, and not just me leaning down and holding his hand, his body has to be pressed up against mine and he has to be able to rub my hair. He's been awful the last few nights since I decided I can no longer handle going up and down the stairs to him at night and need to be on the couch. I initially lay down with him, but like I said he only stays asleep for about 2 hours. After that he has been screaming for hours, only sleeping for a little bit at a time, trying to sleep on top of me on the couch, kicking and hitting me, trying to sleep standing up next to the couch so he can rub my hair, falling asleep on the floor after throwing a huge screaming fit, or squeezing next to me and trying to sleep half falling off the couch. He would be fine sleeping in my bed with me, but there just isn't room there with Dh and I need to sleep on the couch anyway, otherwise I basically can't walk when I get up. I'm terrified for what he's going to be like when I'm in the hospital. And even though I'll be back in my bed I'm still very concerned for when I come home with the baby, having him sleep in my bed and kicking Dh out is not a reasonable long term solution or something that he is willing to do. To be honest Dh tends to be selfish about his sleep and insists his sleep is more important than mine since he works. Although he has gotten up in the night with our other kids at times and would be willing to help at this point but Jeremiah won't have anything to do with him. I'm feeling hopeless about this. I completely rearranged all of the furniture in our stupid tiny bedroom the other day so that I could fit a crib mattress down on the floor for Jeremiah and now I know it's not going to work anyway. I cry everytime I think about it, I don't know what to do. He doesn't nap either, except if he falls sleep in the car or occasionally on my lap and he wants to be held or sit on me and rub my hair nearly all day it seems. Maybe I should just chop it all off. I dont' know how I'm going to care for a newborn and him.

---------- Post added at 09:49 AM ---------- Previous post was at 09:43 AM ----------

By the way we've never "coslept" so not I'm trying to change something that has been his long-term routine. This all happened after he got some teeth 6+ months ago, he had been going to bed on his own with a stuffed animal and doll, but with the teeth coming in he was up off an on all night and suddenly formed an attatchment to my hair and I haven't been able to get him to sleep without me since.