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Old 04-17-2012, 06:28 PM   #8
HealthymamaHappymama
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Default Re: Dealing with my parents

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Originally Posted by Aerynne View Post


Do you have a good church now or a good place to learn about Jesus? Jesus is kind and loving and he loves you. You need to learn that, like internalize it, not just know it with your brain. You could also read a book about grace. One book I love is Believing Christ by Stephen Robinson.

As far as dealing with your parents, it doesn't sound like they want to change. Have you read the book Boundaries? It might help you with this situation. I think they do need to know clearly where you stand IF you want to continue a relationship with them.

As a suggestion, you might want to ask one of the admins to move this thread to a non-public forum. A public forum can be seen by anyone, not just members of gcm, and it can come up in google searches. Just if you're worried about anyone reading this.

Thank you. I don't really have a church home right now. I was going to one but started to feel too many similarities to what I left. I do go to a womens bible study there and it's a mix of women that don't all go there. So that is helping some right now. I'm just realizing more and more that I don't know as much as I thought and I am struggling with Jesus is love. I feel confused a lot and overwhelmed with not having a lot of time to really study out what the bible really says.
I should pursue seeing a counselor again. I saw one for a while a couple years ago, and that helped me so much. It was when I realized a lot of what I grew up with was something I didn't agree with.

You are right when you say my parents don't seem to want to change. The only reason they would communicate with me at all is to win me back to their church. I've seen the cold shoulder they have given to others including my brother and other family members. They aren't really mourning for them to come back very long. They seem to move on quickly.

Another concern I have is as my kids get older that they will try to convert them. I've seen that happen and the kids then shun their parents. I also realize that I can't control everything, but that is def a situation I see my parents attempting.
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