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Old 05-05-2012, 10:47 PM   #13
SubarbanHippie
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Default Re: Being Paid for Chores....

This is what I have found works for us. Everyone's mileage will vary. My son gets a dollar for every year he is old per week. That means he gets $9/week. He can get it in whatever form he chooses. Some weeks he asks for the money is WiiWare points to buy games online. Those weeks it comes out of my checking account and he never receives actual money. Other weeks he gets it in cash and is free to spend it at Target on Friday night. The only requirement is that he gives $1 at church on Sunday and puts $1 into his savings account, which leaves him with $7.

I will only advance him up to $5, which he has to pay me back out of the next allowance, without fail. He gets money deducted for not doing chores, but earns extra money for big helps, like helping me spread mulch in the garden or helping Grandpa with a project. Sometimes he will willingly do the extra chores to make up for money deducted by not doing a chore.

What I don't do is add or deduct money based on his behavior. I want him to know hard work is rewarded (as it is in the workforce), but I don't want him to ever allow money to motivate the actual heart of his behavior, if that makes sense. In other words, it's important to be kind and respectful, because it is what makes life best for everyone, including one's self, not because you're getting paid to act that way.

ETA: I know it seems like a lot of money per week for allowance to many people; however, the trade-off is DH and I pay for necessities like his homeschooling materials, food, clothing, shoes, hygiene items, etc. and he has to pay for anything extra (save for special times like birthdays or Christmas, of course). He used to always ask us to buy him things at the store, so we had a budget per week of what we'd spend on little doo-dads for DS. Now he is empowered and motivated by being able to buy those things for himself. It was much easier than trying to keep up with how much we'd spent on his extras every week.

Last edited by SubarbanHippie; 05-05-2012 at 10:50 PM.
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