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Originally Posted by Katigre

The dynamic between two and three is definitely different. I found two kids to be very fun, but it felt like something was missing. Bringing ds2 into our family added a whole new energy and liveliness to everything and both older siblings LOVE LOVE LOVE having a younger sibling.

That said, I did grow up as one of three and know the "left out dynamic" you're speaking of. There are ways to mitigate it though, and honestly I love having a bigger family. It does change how we do some things but I've been able to homeschool the past two years even with a brand new baby week turned into an active toddler.

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Yeah my boys both LOVE babies right now. They have three younger cousins and they just don't leave them alone when we get together. DS1 will randomly say out of the blue "I love my little cousin G" I think they would love a baby brother or sister. I just worry about them getting less of my time YKWIM?

Originally Posted by Little Forest

If you don't feel done, I almost think that is your answer unless your DH had strong feelings otherwise.

AFA what you mother said, wow, just wow. I don't see that as a reason not to have 3. But that is a reason to make a special effort to help children be inclusive and care about other peoples' feelings.

And I really can't imagine anyone on his or her deathbed regretting having 3 children instead of 2.

2 and 3 children both sound so few to me. But then again, I am not homeschooling.
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That is my thought on my Mom's ideas- if we are aware of it we can make a concerted effort not to let anyone feel left out. Obviously the personalities of the kids are going to play a factor but they will be almost exactly evenly spaced so its not like two will be closer in age than the other.

Originally Posted by marbles

I am in a similar situation. I want more, four even, but am also really happy with two.

Yeah we are really happy at two also I can see the light at the end of the tunnel for sleep deprivation and everything but then I get so sad thinking of not having another baby. I am almost positive that three would be our absolute limit though. Not only for my sanity but also for health reasons.

Originally Posted by Cookie Momster

If you don't feel done, there's your answer. I don't think you ever regret the children you do have, only
ones you don't I was one of three kids and I always said I wanted four children because I felt 2 was too few and three just felt "odd". I ended up with five

I really like even numbers.

People ask us all the time if we are going to try for a girl now that we have the two boys but honestly I would rather have another boy at this point. I have all the boy clothes still

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Originally Posted by kiloyd

Also realize that you will be having a c-section.

yeah unfortunately I have pretty much resigned myself to that fact. There was only one doc in the area (within a 2 hour drive) that would even consider the VBAC and none that I know of that will do a VBA2C. I will still try to talk them into it but figure that it won't work. I hate that part of it