I'm having a light bulb moment. I don't ask with please and thank you, but I do end my command with "okay?"
"DS, go put your shoes away, okay?"
Then I get frustrated when he tells me, "no," thinking that he is not complying. But now I'm realizing that he is telling me, "No, that is not okay with me."
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Kammy-
ISFJ ISFP
/ Type 4/1
Wifey to my always thinking, sarcastic, librarian, INFJ hubby. (10/2007)
"So, I've been thinking..."
Loving mama to my energetic, compassionate, and BIG feelings having ds "I" (01/2009)
"You're going to be okay, little plant."
and my easy-going though slightly demanding, tough bulldozer, ds "H". (09/2011)
"Hey! Hey! HEEEY!"
I'm blogging!