RainbowMummy

If you are just venting...ignore.. .but if you want my 2 cents worth... one thing that helps me when I'm feeling I'm too permissive is to step back & work out what is really happening & why. If I am being too permissive, I can then deal with that but if (& this is usually the case when we are having a one off arvo like yours sounds) the child is tired, sick, out of sorts then I toss my plans out the window & do something like snuggle up in bed with them & read books...give them a nap...let them play in the bath etc The book Raising Your Spirited Child has some great ideas for figuring out what each child needs as their own 'down time'. Catering or working around a tired child, even if it means deciding to change your plans, isn't permissive (in my opinion), it's just good sense.

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Can you stick him in the sling on your back & go & do something with the mindset of doing something special for you? Go for a walk, walk around reading a book or dance in front of the TV while trying to forget he is there??