[Reva]

I haven’t read all the replies, so I’m sorry if I missed something or if I’m repeating -BUT- he sounds a lot like my Ds. After years of feeling like the mean mom, backing off only for him to realize that if he complained enough I’d feel sorry for him , etc I finally figured out he needed a list. First, I sat down and made a daily schedule-ie Monday: 9am LA, 10 am Math, Tues 9am Science, 10am History, etc. We didn’t do all subjects every day back then, so it really helped him to see at a glance what we were doing that day. Then I made a list of all the things I was not going to tolerate-and the consequences if he complained. (Sorry, I know that sounds punitive. No spankings, obviously, but things like if I have to call you down more than twice for complaining,then no xbox for x amount of time or whatever will mean the most to him. )

Those two things were vital in getting our homeschool back on track. Ds has ADHD and is a very logical, concrete kinda thinker. He *needed* to see what was required of him.

I can very happily say that Ds doesn’t fuss anymore. Well, he grumbles sometimes (I do too though ) but he sits down and gets right to work. No more fussing (me or him ) and things are so much better now.

Hang in there mama, and don’t give up!