Hair cuts are causing so much stress
I put this here because I'm trying to figure this out for our budget and the good of our household.
I hate cutting my kids hair. I hate the clean up, the fact that an outfit of my limited wardrobe has to be changed immediately after, that I have to bathe my two bath resistant kids immediately after, including one with sensory issues so waiting any length of time is not possible because the hair sets him off.
I can't figure out the logistics because it's all so overwhelming and triggering different parts of my ADD. The Wall of Awful is big but I need to deal with it.
I have my 3 boys, they need cuts every 2 weeks. They don't get it because I can't face it and haven't been able to make a plan.
I think I need a hairdressers apron to help my own struggles with my clothes.
But more then anything I need to set up a "schedule" for who goes first, when baths happen, when cleaning happens
G-12yo
M-8.5yo, developmentally near 6yo, sensory processing, needs help with bath and can't wait till after clean up.
V-5yo, been getting into everything like he is 2 again.
My concerns:
a) M and V must be bathed seperate and immediately after each of their cuts.
b) concerned about V playing in and spreading the hair mess when bathing middle whether or not he has gone first if he has he will need another bath likely.
c) G can help with some things, like monitoring V in bath, but can't bath him. Might be able to keep him away from room with hair mess, but V hasn't been listening well to anyone, let alone G.
d) the hair mess already gives me anxiety to clean up, I try to cut their hair slightly damp so it doesn't fly around everywhere, but it's still a type of mess that really stresses me out a lot.
e) i am so stressed through the process that I become angry, yelling mom who then shuts down completely when it is over and the next few hours are rough esp if they don't leave me alone.
I miss summer, it is easy, I cut them outside the brush them off enough that they don't shed on the way to the bath. So the mess aspect is contained.
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W&C 8/4/06; G 15yo , M 11yo , S 8/29/13 , V 8yo , Baby 2yo
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