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Old 03-04-2017, 11:12 PM   #21
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Default Re: Need Sheepherding a Child's Heart rebuttals ASAP!

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Originally Posted by daina View Post
Anyone ever just feel despair at how deeply entrenched and widespread the ideas of the pearl's and their whole worldview are in Christendom? Especially as a new Christian, when the pastor's and leaders and long-time believers are all telling you that if you don't spank em' young, and spank em' til their will is broken, you don't love your children- it causes so much doubt. Struggling through this. Struggling to have confidence. Struggling with the fear of someday being confronted with "church discipline" for not spanking if my husband goes into ministry.
I've been a Christian and regular church attender for all of my 44 years.

I never heard of any of these books or parenting methods until I came to GCM.

It is largely regional as well as denominational.

I grew up in the north (Wisconsin) and in suburban culture there, spanking is considered a rather ignorant way to try and discipline children. If you threaten a child with a spanking in public, you'll get dirty looks. It's in the same boat as smoking. "Are you really still doing that, given ask the knowledge about how harmful itv is? Come on, grow up."

Growing up 90% of the people I knew were Lutheran, Roman Catholic, Jewish, or Episcopalian. I never met a Baptist person until I was in my 30s and moved to Tennessee. That was a huge culture shock. People openly spank their kids at a park in the suburbs! I was really shocked.
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