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sweetpeasmommy · 08-18-2020, 12:17 PM

I think you are getting lost in all or nothing thinking. Improvements can be made, she can get there but this isn’t laundry where you can just suck it up and get it over with. I think suck it up is an ability that some may develop in childhood, but most really develop as an adult. Maybe that means lowering some expectations in some areas temporarily while you work on the top 1-2 things. Maybe not. But you are putting in a ton of effort right now just to survive. It’s ok to put your oxygen mask on and not address alllll the issues at once.

Here is a checklist you can use to identify the lagging skills and how that looks IRL. https://www.livesinthebalance.org/si...P%20060417.pdf Identify which 2 or so are the biggest issues. Once you know that you can make a plan to start working on an issue or two. You are already working very hard and seem discouraged. Hang in there, there is much hope.

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08-18-2020, 12:17 PM	#55
sweetpeasmommy Rose Garden Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 30,329	Re: I thought grace baised parenting would show fruit I think you are getting lost in all or nothing thinking. Improvements can be made, she can get there but this isn’t laundry where you can just suck it up and get it over with. I think suck it up is an ability that some may develop in childhood, but most really develop as an adult. Maybe that means lowering some expectations in some areas temporarily while you work on the top 1-2 things. Maybe not. But you are putting in a ton of effort right now just to survive. It’s ok to put your oxygen mask on and not address alllll the issues at once. Here is a checklist you can use to identify the lagging skills and how that looks IRL. https://www.livesinthebalance.org/si...P%20060417.pdf Identify which 2 or so are the biggest issues. Once you know that you can make a plan to start working on an issue or two. You are already working very hard and seem discouraged. Hang in there, there is much hope. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk __________________ Amy eNFp Wife to ISTJ DH 1997 Mom to one Sweet Boy 10/2004

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