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WanderingJuniper · 08-19-2020, 03:19 AM

First, please do not feel poorly about coming here and venting. Isn’t that part of what GCM is? Coming to vent hopefully safely so we can work out some challenging things as moms?

Second I am not addressing the “suck it up” mindset but just ask a few very practical questions and they are questions I fully balked at when my husband posed them to me years and years ago. I am not asking these to make you feel poorly because I don’t really get stuck not doing anything but rather hyper focusing on my own whims instead as a form of avoidance and it was not serving my kids well at the time. They were taken care of but we had behavior issues. Anyway, what supports do you have in place right now? Do you have a family routine daily? A weekly schedule? Is it somewhere your girls can see it? What kind of boundaries do you have in place for yourself if your girl goes off at you? What kind of say do the girls have in what and how they learn? Environment for n which they learn?

(Hugs) you are in a hard season climbing uphill and it stinks. It’s okay to say it stinks.

08-19-2020, 03:19 AM	#59
WanderingJuniper Rose Garden Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 10,819	Re: I thought grace baised parenting would show fruit First, please do not feel poorly about coming here and venting. Isn’t that part of what GCM is? Coming to vent hopefully safely so we can work out some challenging things as moms? Second I am not addressing the “suck it up” mindset but just ask a few very practical questions and they are questions I fully balked at when my husband posed them to me years and years ago. I am not asking these to make you feel poorly because I don’t really get stuck not doing anything but rather hyper focusing on my own whims instead as a form of avoidance and it was not serving my kids well at the time. They were taken care of but we had behavior issues. Anyway, what supports do you have in place right now? Do you have a family routine daily? A weekly schedule? Is it somewhere your girls can see it? What kind of boundaries do you have in place for yourself if your girl goes off at you? What kind of say do the girls have in what and how they learn? Environment for n which they learn? (Hugs) you are in a hard season climbing uphill and it stinks. It’s okay to say it stinks.

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