[Love_Is_Patient]

Originally Posted by knitlove

Dh is about to say we need to throw down the towl and that grace based pare thing obviously hasn't worked and that we need to go back to something else. I don't think just leaving her alone in a room screaming is good but I honistly can't really point to how what I have been doing has worked.


I will see if he will read the eplosove child or one of that guy's other books with me but honistly I don't think Dh will buy in to it. Partly because he rmebers choosing to do thing and not so thing, so I don't think he is going to jsut accept the ' children do well when they can'. I also don't think he will agree to the just ignore things be there slave and eventually they might acknowledge you as a person and work with you.

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---------- Post added at 05:57 PM ---------- Previous post was at 05:56 PM ----------

He was rightly pointing out that in any other place early bird would have been kicked out. And it is true school is even some foster family's would have kicked her out because they wouldn't out up with the way she behaves or the way her behavior affects the other child in the house.

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At her age I don’t see letting her scream by herself as punitive or unacceptable. She has to come to a realization that she is in fact responsible for her responses, and it could be that you trying to do things to help her is actually interfering with that. So if dh wants to try “going to your room until you can speak/behave reasonably“, then at her age I would try it