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He also adresses the anger issues of parents.

This should be the first goal of any family, IMO. Any of the books by Faber and Mazlish are good, as is Between Parent and Child: Revised and Updated: The Bestselling Classic That Revolutionized Parent-Child Communication by Haim Ginott. These books are almost certainly at your public library as they are classics.

This book is also FANTASTIC and, IMO, should be in every family library. I cannot think of a single person who would not benefit from this book. I bought it to work though with my most troubled teen but I am going to have the entire family go through it. This is exactly the kind of emotional regulation learning that I wish I had learned when I was younger. To be fair, DBT didn't get published until 1991 so my parents and teachers didn't have access to it But, when this becomes more mainstream, I believe our society will improve drastically.
The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook

I just got this book but I haven't started it yet. From flipping through it looks like it is geared toward younger kids, which may mean it could be perfect for you. It looks excellent, though. Very practical, which is so needed. All the theory in the world isn't helpful for a parent in the trenches. Give me the theory and then give me concrete examples of WHAT TO DO. Beyond Behaviors: Using Brain Science and Compassion to Understand and Solve Children's Behavioral Challenges

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If you'll consider supplements, I highly recommend Julia Ross. For a younger child, it's basically a complete amino acid supplement that is recommended. Her books need better editing but the results we've seen with amino acid supplementation have been AMAZING. Both for me and my kids. I used The Craving Cure for myself and also to help my kids. She also has The Mood Cure. But even though the Craving Cure is geared toward people who want to get a handle of their crazy food cravings, our crazy food cravings say a whole lot about what is out of balance in our brains. By addressing my endorphin highs and lows, it helped my mood and self-control immensely. These books may be at your library, also.

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Also, a full blood panel, plus checking for Vit D and thyroid, can sometimes reveal things that need to be addressed.