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LovelyGourmet · 11-20-2017, 08:59 AM

We have homeschooled from the beginning and C (9 and my firstborn) has resisted it from the start. I think part of the problem has been me but it seems like whatever approach I take he just doesn't want to do anything. We don't do anything super rigorous. Right now for math we are only doing Life of Fred but he will fight me on most every problem. As soon as I announce the next subject he launches into "But I don't waaaant to do that." He has also started doing that when I ask anything else of him. Dh thinks it's a discipline issue and wants me to assign extra work any time C complains about what he has to do. I worry that will only make him hate school more. Obviously he doesn't like it now anyway which is what Dh pointed out and maybe a week of extra work when he complains will fix the problem and then we won't have to worry about it. I don't feel so sure that's the right approach though.

Any advice?

11-20-2017, 08:59 AM	#1
LovelyGourmet Rose Bouquet Keep it together, keep it together... Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Idaho Posts: 853	Child who doesn't want to do any school... advice? We have homeschooled from the beginning and C (9 and my firstborn) has resisted it from the start. I think part of the problem has been me but it seems like whatever approach I take he just doesn't want to do anything. We don't do anything super rigorous. Right now for math we are only doing Life of Fred but he will fight me on most every problem. As soon as I announce the next subject he launches into "But I don't waaaant to do that." He has also started doing that when I ask anything else of him. Dh thinks it's a discipline issue and wants me to assign extra work any time C complains about what he has to do. I worry that will only make him hate school more. Obviously he doesn't like it now anyway which is what Dh pointed out and maybe a week of extra work when he complains will fix the problem and then we won't have to worry about it. I don't feel so sure that's the right approach though. Any advice? __________________ Tosha INFP (Please forgive my Eeyore-ness) Married to my soul mate - INFJ 8/06 Mommy to C - - 3/08 K - - 10/10 L - - 9/12 D - - 10/14 A - - 03/17 “When you are a Bear of Very Little Brain, and you Think of Things, you find sometimes that a Thing which seemed very Thingish inside you is quite different when it gets out into the open and has other people looking at it.”

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