[LovelyGourmet]

Screen time is only allowed 3 days out of the week and then only if school and chores are done. Same thing with having friends over or going to friends houses. I'm wondering if it's too far removed to be motivating though. Maybe if each subject is worth a certain amount of screen time that would be more motivating? It is hard to keep track of how much screen time they are having though which is why I haven't done it as a time limit before and used the natural flow of our day and limiting what days to keep screen time minimal.

We have tried backing off of school a few times... to the point that I feel like he isn't where he should be. Every time we start more things he complains that "we didn't have to do this last week".

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Originally Posted by ECingMama

Is discipline an issue in other aspects of life?

Is he gifted?

Reading on grade level? Reads for fun?

Does chores well?

It does seem to be anything I ask him to do. The other day he wouldn't heat up extra chicken for his brothers for lunch because "they aren't babies and can do it themselves" and begs to stay at co-op after I tell him it's time to leave. He can't seem to accept no as the answer.

He's a pretty average 9yo I think.

He reads well but hasn't been reading as much for fun as he used to. He's suddenly decided every story is boring. And he has started complaining about reading time during school (even though I let him read whatever he wants) because he reads before bed so that should count.

He complains a lot about doing chores. It's an every day fight and then when he is asked to do anything "extra" like clean up a room that isn't on the every day chore list it's the end of the world.