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chelsea · 07-30-2015, 05:59 PM

When your child has misbehaved and you as a parent react in anger (raising your voice, using unkind talk, etc) how do you apologize while still holding them accountable for their part in it?

For example, if your child is not treating their siblings kindly, stubbornly refusing to do what you ask, speaking in an over-the-top disrespectful manner, etc continuously and you eventually snap and speak harshly to them? What if you have reacted wrongly and need to apologize, but you have a child who doesn't seem to realize they did anything wrong unless you point it out? Do you say "I'm sorry for reacting wrongly to you. I was feeling pushed to the limits when you refused to stop doing such and such." Or do you just say "I'm sorry for reacting wrongly to you" and leave it at that and just hope and pray that they figure it out that there were things they did that needed correction, and hope and pray that they will follow your example by apologizing to the offended parties?

Don't they say that an apology with a "but" is no apology at all? So how do you keep your children accountable for their actions while still taking responsibility for your own?

07-30-2015, 05:59 PM	#1
chelsea Rose Garden Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 7,373	Apologizing When Child Misbehaved When your child has misbehaved and you as a parent react in anger (raising your voice, using unkind talk, etc) how do you apologize while still holding them accountable for their part in it? For example, if your child is not treating their siblings kindly, stubbornly refusing to do what you ask, speaking in an over-the-top disrespectful manner, etc continuously and you eventually snap and speak harshly to them? What if you have reacted wrongly and need to apologize, but you have a child who doesn't seem to realize they did anything wrong unless you point it out? Do you say "I'm sorry for reacting wrongly to you. I was feeling pushed to the limits when you refused to stop doing such and such." Or do you just say "I'm sorry for reacting wrongly to you" and leave it at that and just hope and pray that they figure it out that there were things they did that needed correction, and hope and pray that they will follow your example by apologizing to the offended parties? Don't they say that an apology with a "but" is no apology at all? So how do you keep your children accountable for their actions while still taking responsibility for your own? __________________ "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I will praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well."

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