Re: Apologizing When Child Misbehaved
We talk about the incident as a whole. I apologize for my part in it and say what I think I should've done instead. "I'm sorry that I yelled at you. Instead of yelling, I should've walked away to calm down then helped you with what you were having trouble doing on your own. The next time I get frustrated, I will walk away to calm down first." Then it is his turn. I usually go first because it is modeling for him. After his turn, I explain that we are family and that families should work together so that everyone meets their responsibilities and so that we all are kind and respectful to each other.
It is really, really hard to feel like you are giving the same lesson over and over. It's getting better, even if it is slow progress. I'm hopeful that one day things will be easier.
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Pam - MOM to three amazing kids!!!
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