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Old 04-24-2015, 06:05 AM   #1
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Default "Stealing Privileges/Showing Responsibility" - Can We Flesh This Out?

This is a concept Crystal has mentioned here on the board and explained it a bit in this article:
http://aolff.org/grace-based-discipl...and-pull-weeds

I've started using this with my boys.

My oldest is very literal and he wants a list of expectations/responsibilities. I want to make sure that doesn't go against this concept:

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It’s key that NONE of this is done in a petty, tit for tat way at all. It’s just about being practical and insisting on respectful behavior. I will ALWAYS start the flow of cooperation and good things.
Yesterday, DS1 wanted me to define the difference between whining/complaining and sharing feelings. So he's definitely starting to get it But for him, he needs to be reminded a lot (as does DS2, but DS1 asks for this), and he needs it to be very concrete. We are relating it to earning media time at this point because that's the easiest thing for them to grasp.

Also, I'm not only wanting the boys to take more responsibility; I want them to learn to do it with less complaining, questioning and whining. Is that reasonable? I mean that - it's not rhetorical or snarky.

I'm wondering how this pans out for those using it. Tell me what it looks like in your home.
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