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Originally Posted by mollobe
Exactly. It's like I NEED him to see that what he's doing (or not doing) is a big deal - if I walk away, take deep breathes, etc. then he won't ever learn that it's NOT OKAY to act that way.
I "know" that's not true, or gentle parenting wouldn't work, so can someone please explain it to me?
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For me a lot of it has been about control. It helps to remember the best way for me to stay in control is to control my emotions and temper. I'm the grown up and I can choose how I react.
I also remember modeling. Children learn by seeing much more than they learn by being told. If they see you choosing the right way of handling your emotions they will learn much better than trying to make sure they KNOW.
These are things I try to remind myself and they help