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I think you're exactly right, RiAnnon. The comfort phase is so important right now, especially b/c of the adoption and punitive background. And you will be able to teach him skills but realize that especially in the moment right now he's just not able to use them. Add into that that technically your child is 1 and he only needs one skill per year of age...and you've got it, nursing.

Good insights into your particular situation.

edited for spelling

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03-04-2007, 11:10 PM	#11
canadiyank Deactivated Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Central WA Posts: 17,196	Re: Discussion of "Dealing With Disappointment" by Elizabeth Crary I think you're exactly right, RiAnnon. The comfort phase is so important right now, especially b/c of the adoption and punitive background. And you will be able to teach him skills but realize that especially in the moment right now he's just not able to use them. Add into that that technically your child is 1 and he only needs one skill per year of age...and you've got it, nursing. Good insights into your particular situation. edited for spelling

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