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twoplustwo · 03-24-2014, 02:07 PM

UPDATE! So I didn't realize there were 3 more available practices for swim left before the break between short & long courses but got an email that there are M-W this week.

(I say available because you arent supposed to go to them all - there are 5 a week, especially at this age because they dont want it to become not fun, but you dont sign up for a specific time, you just go as you want).

So the kids want to go to practice today. So I said ok, go get ready (40 minutes before we have to leave) and they are upstairs goofing around. So I look up there & say - hey bud, come on down & help me with dishes. And he is all "Wha?" And I am all, just come here. So he does and I explain that getting ready at the same time isnt working and they will flip flop getting ready. He isn't thrilled to be helping me with dishes, but takes it ok.

The point being - MY KIDS GOT READY IN RECORD TIME by doing it separately!

Some times the answer is so obvious it makes you go

Also, I haven't yelled since that day (Saturday), though I did get snippy with my kids at dinner time this evening when they were listening and wasn't very nice. They were goofing around & going to knock stuff over. After beiing mean, I did get on their level and say in her eyes - "I asked you to stop it because someone was going to get hurt or there would be a mess" and my 8 year old said "I know, I know, I heard you the first 2 times." Which made me think (but not say) - then why didnt you listen the first 2 times.

Anyway, I am working on it, working on it, working on it always. Its hard to change!

03-24-2014, 02:07 PM	#8
twoplustwo Moderator Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 6,537	Re: More tools needed! (so I will stop yelling) UPDATE! So I didn't realize there were 3 more available practices for swim left before the break between short & long courses but got an email that there are M-W this week. (I say available because you arent supposed to go to them all - there are 5 a week, especially at this age because they dont want it to become not fun, but you dont sign up for a specific time, you just go as you want). So the kids want to go to practice today. So I said ok, go get ready (40 minutes before we have to leave) and they are upstairs goofing around. So I look up there & say - hey bud, come on down & help me with dishes. And he is all "Wha?" And I am all, just come here. So he does and I explain that getting ready at the same time isnt working and they will flip flop getting ready. He isn't thrilled to be helping me with dishes, but takes it ok. The point being - MY KIDS GOT READY IN RECORD TIME by doing it separately! Some times the answer is so obvious it makes you go Also, I haven't yelled since that day (Saturday), though I did get snippy with my kids at dinner time this evening when they were listening and wasn't very nice. They were goofing around & going to knock stuff over. After beiing mean, I did get on their level and say in her eyes - "I asked you to stop it because someone was going to get hurt or there would be a mess" and my 8 year old said "I know, I know, I heard you the first 2 times." Which made me think (but not say) - then why didnt you listen the first 2 times. Anyway, I am working on it, working on it, working on it always. Its hard to change!

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