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Old 07-13-2009, 01:38 PM   #33
GrowingInGrace
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Default Re: Discipline can "fix" a problem

You know, I'm really glad this thread has been revived. It is a great one...I actually re-read my response, and I can say a year later, I still agree with what I wrote and things have been dramatically improved since I worked hard with my high needs middle daughter. Turns out she had sensory issues, and separation anxiety, and generalized anxiety and selective mutism.

The ONLY way to help her was to meet her unique needs and work with her where she was at. Not discipline it out of her.

A year later, she's much more confident, much more emotionally regulated (still has her down days, but nothing like it was). I would have been wrong to do anything other than what we've been doing to keep the connection.

Just to show what she needed, I posted what helped. It was pretty extensive, but it really did work for her.

http://raisingsmartgirls.wordpress.c...orked-for-her/

Honestly, I would not have known about some of the wonderful resources if it weren't for the ladies here at GCM that pointed me in the right direction (to books like Raising Your Spirited Child, and The Explosive Child). GCM taught me how important it was to maintain connection in the middle of the behavioral problems we were having.

Crystal - some days I resisted the advice (remember when Joanne and I went a few rounds of disagreements waaaaayyyy back when?). I didn't want to bend but instead wanted compliance. My stubbornness set us back a bit, but when I realized you guys were right...everything changed for the better.

Last edited by GrowingInGrace; 08-04-2009 at 07:55 PM.
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