[Soliloquy]

At age two she truly is still a baby. Still so young.

I would remove the object, nonchalantly, and say, "You seem so frustrated!" Or upset, whatever word you think most closely matches her feeling. It gives her a word for how she feels. It also teaches her that we need to tell our loved ones what we're feeling in an objective way without hurting anyone.

When people are angry, upset, etc their brains are not receptive to ANY kind of learning. It's called downshifting. The brain responds in a much more primal manner. If you think about it, even as an adults, we have a very hard time holding our tongues when we're angry. I often have to force myself outside to let all the words fly so I can get them out without hurting a relationship. Once I'm calm, it's very easy to see a solution. But, when I'm angry? No way. After she's calmed down, I'd ask her to clean up.

So don't be discouraged, learning appropriate ways to behave when angry take a long time. And many people never even attempt it. It's not very supported in our culture.