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GCM_Sticky · 07-10-2007, 01:05 AM

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Title: Need help learning effective responses to non-compliance.
Post by: gandpsmommy on June 20, 2006, 12:48:47 PM
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[excerpt from a longer post about various issues]

Also, sometimes one of them will hit me. What is the appropriate response for this?

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Title: Re: Need help learning effective responses to non-compliance.
Post by: Wonder Woman on June 20, 2006, 02:32:03 PM
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With the hitting, this is pretty common from what I understand! Right now I'm really working on teaching my ds "You will respect Mommy's body boundaries." I'm teaching him that by when he hits, I make that statement, and I remove A: myself from the situation or B: whatever object he is hitting me with from the situation. I tell him "You may not hit me. I will not allow you to hit me." Currently, his drumsticks are on top of the fridge. Me taking them away resulted in a meltdown, which ended in a whimpering, overtired little boy (the reason for the acting out in the first place!) snuggled up in my lap and drifting off to sleep.

When he wakes up, he gets a ''try again" where he will be permitted to have the sticks. If he hits me again, they will quietly disappear for a couple of days.

Not as punishment, but because I am modeling for him that people who are healthy do not permit themselves to be hit.

07-10-2007, 01:05 AM	#20
GCM_Sticky master maker of stickies Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 654	Re: Collected Posts about "You Hit, You Sit" and General Posts about Hitting -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Title: Need help learning effective responses to non-compliance. Post by: gandpsmommy on June 20, 2006, 12:48:47 PM -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- [excerpt from a longer post about various issues] Also, sometimes one of them will hit me. What is the appropriate response for this? -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Title: Re: Need help learning effective responses to non-compliance. Post by: Wonder Woman on June 20, 2006, 02:32:03 PM -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- With the hitting, this is pretty common from what I understand! Right now I'm really working on teaching my ds "You will respect Mommy's body boundaries." I'm teaching him that by when he hits, I make that statement, and I remove A: myself from the situation or B: whatever object he is hitting me with from the situation. I tell him "You may not hit me. I will not allow you to hit me." Currently, his drumsticks are on top of the fridge. Me taking them away resulted in a meltdown, which ended in a whimpering, overtired little boy (the reason for the acting out in the first place!) snuggled up in my lap and drifting off to sleep. When he wakes up, he gets a ''try again" where he will be permitted to have the sticks. If he hits me again, they will quietly disappear for a couple of days. Not as punishment, but because I am modeling for him that people who are healthy do not permit themselves to be hit.

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