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Naomi · 03-29-2012, 08:13 AM

I am RIGHT there with you.. except trying to decide on biological baby #5, instead of #3. I go back and forth, on what seems like a daily basis.

We also would like to do foster care, and possibly adopt 1 more.. which is more likely if we don't have another biological, because we both feel comfortable with 5 being our cap for children. But, we are open to fostering beyond that.. just not adopting.

It is such a hard decision, at least it has been for me. We've been ttc since september, and every month feels like an emotional rollercoaster. Before ovulation, I'm calm and unattached, the 2ww is the time where I spend obsessing and hoping for a BFP, and then when AF shows up, I feel sad, and then almost relieved, wondering if this is GOd trying to tell me that we shoudl be done biologically. We got pregnant with all of the other dc within the course of 2 or 3 months.. so it's strange to be ttc for so long.

Mostly, I've been praying that God will make it clear to me with a real sense of peace either way. Right now, I'm feeling like we are supposed to have #5, because after I spend all sorts of time and emotions planning foster care, and imagining being done giving birth.. I'm just not at peace with it.

Right now, I'm assuming that there is a reason that I'm not pregnant yet.. that God has a baby planned for us, and the right timing jus thasn't been yet.

About a year from now, I will probably have a really definitive answer one way or another for you. But for now, I'm pretty much useless.

03-29-2012, 08:13 AM	#6
Naomi Rose Garden Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: USA Posts: 7,911	Re: Should we add to our family? I am RIGHT there with you.. except trying to decide on biological baby #5, instead of #3. I go back and forth, on what seems like a daily basis. We also would like to do foster care, and possibly adopt 1 more.. which is more likely if we don't have another biological, because we both feel comfortable with 5 being our cap for children. But, we are open to fostering beyond that.. just not adopting. It is such a hard decision, at least it has been for me. We've been ttc since september, and every month feels like an emotional rollercoaster. Before ovulation, I'm calm and unattached, the 2ww is the time where I spend obsessing and hoping for a BFP, and then when AF shows up, I feel sad, and then almost relieved, wondering if this is GOd trying to tell me that we shoudl be done biologically. We got pregnant with all of the other dc within the course of 2 or 3 months.. so it's strange to be ttc for so long. Mostly, I've been praying that God will make it clear to me with a real sense of peace either way. Right now, I'm feeling like we are supposed to have #5, because after I spend all sorts of time and emotions planning foster care, and imagining being done giving birth.. I'm just not at peace with it. Right now, I'm assuming that there is a reason that I'm not pregnant yet.. that God has a baby planned for us, and the right timing jus thasn't been yet. About a year from now, I will probably have a really definitive answer one way or another for you. But for now, I'm pretty much useless. __________________ Married to my first kiss since 12/20/03 Mama to my little chatterbox since 2/9/06 my little ham, born 11/8/07 my miracle man, born 3/27/09 my HBAC boy, born 3/20/11 and my grand finale born 12/11/12

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