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Old 08-04-2009, 08:00 PM   #37
GrowingInGrace
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Default Re: Discipline can "fix" a problem

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Originally Posted by shehaights View Post
So nice to read other GCM posts on this subject!! They are just what I needed! My ds is very spirited and we stick out like a sore thumb! I try to do everything with peace in my heart and love in my actions and words while still being assertive with him and not get walked over! I have found just stopping and praying for a second opens my mind to an idea of how to "solve" the problem or calm the situation. Each time I know it's God whispering in my ear, because so often I just want to hide my face as people stare at us. I smile at them and get to my ds level and speak to him.

I went to an AP meeting last week and my son was trying to hit, snatch toys and just not behaving acceptably. We stepped out several times, went for a walk, sat down, talked, and just kept coming back in when he calmed down. We drive about an hour each month to these meetings so we try to get as much as we can out of it! After the meeting we went to lunch with a couple of friends. One of the Mom's told me she wanted to tell me something but didn't want to "offend me". I braced myself knowing she was going to give me parenting advice, tell me he's out of control, etc etc. Instead she said, that I am so good with him and she would not be able to handle him. I laughed aloud!! Tears filled my eyes and let me tell you that is the nicest thing any Mother could ever tell another Mother! I'm well aware of his spiritedness so of course it was not offending to me! When my ds was acting out in the meeting I asked God "why? I try so hard and I feel like I'm always failing, what am I doing wrong"? I felt like her words were God just encouraging me on. That's what I find in this post, other Mom's going through the same thing or who have been there! I love the advice and will read the books mentioned above!

God Bless!!
That's always good when you get good feedback when out in public.
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