I haven't read the whole thread but I keep hearing that routine is important. For us, and for the kids. So, set a time to wake up, to exercise, to shower, to do the 'extra new things', to do the routine every day things. Don't forget to drink water. And eat. This has helped our family a lot - have had to encourage DH to engage in routine, and the kids also -- and often we slip but that's ok bc we are all human and trying to make it through!!
Also, on one of our better days we cleaned out the garage. And on another we cleaned out the basement! I will take success where I can!