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Originally Posted by ValiantJoy07
This is the hardest part of this stage (9, 7, 5) my 9 year old annoys me the most because it is SUPER obvious things like "what are we having for lunch?" as she watches me pull the tuna and bread from the fridge.
Part of it is is her temperment, she needs to know every detail and she likes to be *told*, like it validates the experience for her to hear some one else say it.
Either way I am really working on my patience and trying to turn it back on them and have them do some critical thinking. I am also trying to be sure I tell them that I need some quiet time in my head BEFORE I am ready to snap from the 15th question in a 5 minute span (and it's always when I am just trying to complete a task before the toddler takes some thing apart or starts shrieking for me to hold him).
It is a lot.
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This is kind of my approach. I try to differentiate between questions that are just filling silence or are not wanting to think on their own and questions that they really feel the need answers to. So I do my best to address things they need to know before the questions start. Like one kid feels better knowing a rough schedule for the day/week, so I do a quick overview every morning. For the little boring questions, I have no problem asking for a break or saying "look at what I'm doing right now. Save your questions for when I look like I have time to answer them." When I can answer them, I (depending on where everyone is because you can't do this all the time) try to get them to find the answer themselves.
I do want to say, your language in this post is kind of harsh. I've been there, so no judgement, but you may want to look at your emotional/mental needs that may be unmet so you don't feel so personally attacked by the questions. It does sound like there is something going on there that is causing stress and maybe anger for you and uncertainty and neediness for them.