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Originally Posted by Tandem mama

"I need you to stop doing that. It upsets her"

Try changing your script to "you need to..." There's a HUGE difference in what you need them to do and what they need to do.

Originally Posted by Psyche

Like Caden trying to make Jon cry on purpose, like in the above scenario. I get his attention and tell him to stop. And he continues to do it until I start screaming at him and make him stop.

Can you get to Caden and move him away from Jon rather than using words. It sounds like your words aren't making an impact. Just intervening physically into the problem may help him understand the words that you're using.

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Originally Posted by MamaMiriam

DS has been pulling my books off the shelf and trying to throw them all over the living room.

He thinks it's a game now. Can you take those books and put them in a closet/under a bed/AWAY for a while? It's not ideal but take the stack and just get it out of there. If they're books you're using do you have a row of books that don't get used EVERYDAY? Switch it out and put those books in the closet. Sometimes the littles get so focused on something, it's their go to *thing* when they want some momma attn. It doesn't matter that it's negative attn, it's just momma attn.