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I don't even know where to start. I feel like a huge failure and that I am ruining my kids. Especially my 6yo. This post is probably going to be ramble and a little emotional because ds just had a huge meltdown in the store and I am not sure where to start. Just as background, we just had a baby 2 months ago, so I'm sure he's still feeling the effects of adding a new person to the family, even though he absolutely adores her.

Ds is having big huge feelings when he gets angry. We have been talking to him about good healthy ways to express anger since he was 2 maybe. Maybe younger. but for years anyway. He has recently started hitting, kicking and screaming at me when he gets angry. He goes into a rage and there is nothing I can do to stop it. He throws things, slams doors, hits things. He is getting too big for me to take him to his room to calm down. He knows theres not much I can do and runs away. When the kids get angry, they are sent to their room so that they can calm down without hurting anyone. But now he just refuses. When he is angry, he refuses to do any of the things to help him calm down (deep breathes, hitting DH's punching bag, running outside, listening to music, coloring....) that we have talked about when he is not angry.

Just now, we were in the grocery store and I asked him to hold on to the side of the cart because he hasn't been listening lately. He didn't want to and the whole trip just fell apart from there. It ended with us leaving the cart in the middle of the store as he hit, kicked and screamed at me as we tried to leave.

There is also a huge amount of disrespect and antagonizing going on between DS and DD. They fight to be first, argue about everything, give each other little looks or smiles when they win or are first or whatever and the other isn't.

i'll bbl to add more details. but i need help. My house is not peaceful. It's turned into the angry, loud place full of disrespect. I have "Your six year old" and "how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk" and have been slowly making my way through those but its hard with a new baby and two other kids to take care of.

I know spanking is not at all the answer and won't do it, but gosh dang it I want to do something! I'm tried of being a human punching bag, and none of the talking about anger and what to do about it that we've done for years is not working. I need something that will work.