[MegMarch]

Along with what has been stated, 6 was a time of HUGE turbulence for my daughter. She had been a breeze in toddler years, not too hard in preschool years and then BOOM, tantrums, testing, all that stuff I though she'd be past already. Quite a few of my friends with girls the same age seemed to be dealing with similar. I don't know if boys have the same stuff at that age or not, or if most girls do or not So age stuff plus family turbulence is A LOT.


Are you and her dad seeing your care for the kids right now as you being a parent or a care taker? What about the kids? How do they see the roles here? I would try for now to be in a care taker role. Just keep her happy and alive and turn her back over to her dad with a smile and "it was fun to be with you today!"



I would go back to basics. View her as a baby in some ways. Connect in those basic ways, nurturing, fun, skin to skin via things like piggy backs and cuddly book time. Set her up for success and be ready to encourage her and offer lots of chances to try again without the tries being tests to see if she can get it right this time. And get to know her. Let her know you like her (not love her, but actually like who she is and want to be with her.)


And lady, get you some self care. It's a huge undertaking what you are going through. So be sure you are getting your basics (food, sleep, etc) and some extras too (long bath with you children up in your grill, a run, whatever you need to feel like yourself a bit.)