Gentle Christian Mothers Community - View Single Post - I need to say a few things about the idea of defiance

AttachedMamma · 07-24-2006, 08:08 AM

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Originally Posted by ArmsOfLove

As far as I'm concerned, I could honestly care less if something is defiance or willfull defiance or ignorance or an accident or sleepwalking

I respond the same way. I don't have to play the game of discerning intent, I assign a positive one because it makes my life more pleasant.

I love that--it sounds so liberating!

Quote:

Originally Posted by ArmsOfLove

So GBD can be both harder and easier than punishing. Harder, because you need to be creative and tuned in and learn how to work with your child. Easier because you don't have to try and be a mind or heart reader.

I suppose I can save myself a lot of trouble in some areas by not trying to read my DD's mind.

Thanks for the great insight.

Cindi

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