[ArmsOfLove]

I actually don't use the CC for the you hit, you sit. That's just sitting down on the couch or off to the side of the activity until you're ready to be responsible for your actions. They can choose to sit in the CC, but I don't direct them there. You hit, you sit is about stopping them immediately and getting their attention. And using it for coloring on the walls and other stuff would probably cause you to think of it more like time out--but I would use it if the child was getting out of control and doing those things because they were having a bad day or in reaction to gentle correction. The real purpose of the CC is to realize that people who are acting bad are doing so because they feel bad so when you give them a chance to pull themselves together in an environment that helps them feel better they can return to things and act better.

Making amends is where they take responsibility for having wronged someone and make effort to make things right for the person. A harsh word would be replaced with a kind word; hurting would be replaced with a gentle touch; taking a toy would mean you give it back and offer another one with it. Sometimes, if it's hurt feelings, I encourage the child who hurt the other one to ask what they can do to help them feel better.