My oldest is 9 and I am hesitant to push for a diagnosis since it seems so many girls get misdiagnosed.
Masking behavior like faking eye contact is so common in girls with ASD. How does this get her denied the Dx that will open doors to supports she needs?
I read that yours wants to go off and read. Would she maybe like just hanging in the same room with you while she reads? You could read your own thing, work on your art, etc? I enjoy very much being close to other people but doing our own stuff. It feels less intense.