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SewingGreenMama · 08-18-2020, 02:57 AM

Have you see the video on the you tube Channel "How To ADHD" called "the wall of awful"?
It has been such a help to me and for me. I have walls of awful everywhere. Surrounding almost every task. It's so hard to start and do anything. It's so hard.
I can really understand Early Bird in some ways. The having to start work after having fun, the schedule was thrown off. The automatic assumption is that is will remain off because there is no way to rebuild the regular structure of the day. And once things were derailed by the bike ride (and you didn't foreshadow that school would still take place) plans were already made for the day and you then said that the normal schedule would be in place....but how can that be when the possibility of normalcy was already destroyed. In my mind it would feel like trying trying to squeeze a large triangle shaped schedule into a small round hole that is left of the day (no it doesn't matter that you are only 20 min off it isn't about time so much as routine). I have to go straight from breakfast to school or it doesn't happen. Dishes wait till after lunch. Etc. If there are any appointments in the morning then school doesn't happen that day. Because the whole day was ruined by the morning interruptions and I can't adjust our usual routine, it has to be wholely intact or I can't do any of it.
It will take me weeks to start a task that takes less then ten minutes and makes my life easier. Yup. Weeks. The mental energy it takes to get past "something" causing a wall of awful required to get started is exhausting.
Sorry if this is rambling and confusing.

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Wall of awful video: https://youtu.be/Uo08uS904Rg

I rewatch it every couple of months. It really helps me.

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08-18-2020, 02:57 AM	#43
SewingGreenMama Rose Trellis Deuteronomy 11:19 Join Date: May 2012 Location: Tennessee Posts: 3,052	Re: I thought grace baised parenting would show fruit Have you see the video on the you tube Channel "How To ADHD" called "the wall of awful"? It has been such a help to me and for me. I have walls of awful everywhere. Surrounding almost every task. It's so hard to start and do anything. It's so hard. I can really understand Early Bird in some ways. The having to start work after having fun, the schedule was thrown off. The automatic assumption is that is will remain off because there is no way to rebuild the regular structure of the day. And once things were derailed by the bike ride (and you didn't foreshadow that school would still take place) plans were already made for the day and you then said that the normal schedule would be in place....but how can that be when the possibility of normalcy was already destroyed. In my mind it would feel like trying trying to squeeze a large triangle shaped schedule into a small round hole that is left of the day (no it doesn't matter that you are only 20 min off it isn't about time so much as routine). I have to go straight from breakfast to school or it doesn't happen. Dishes wait till after lunch. Etc. If there are any appointments in the morning then school doesn't happen that day. Because the whole day was ruined by the morning interruptions and I can't adjust our usual routine, it has to be wholely intact or I can't do any of it. It will take me weeks to start a task that takes less then ten minutes and makes my life easier. Yup. Weeks. The mental energy it takes to get past "something" causing a wall of awful required to get started is exhausting. Sorry if this is rambling and confusing. Sent from my Moto Z (2) using Tapatalk ---------- Post added at 05:57 AM ---------- Previous post was at 05:56 AM ---------- Wall of awful video: https://youtu.be/Uo08uS904Rg I rewatch it every couple of months. It really helps me. Sent from my Moto Z (2) using Tapatalk __________________ "Reflections like these lead one to spare the rod ... purely because it is not easy to find a punishment that does not defeat it's own ends." -Charlotte Mason Parents and Children pg. 171 "If punishment were necessarily reformative, and able to cure us all of those 'sins we have a mind to,' why, the world would be a very good world;" -Charlotte Mason, Parents and Children pg. 172 W&C 8/4/06; G 15yo , M 11yo , S 8/29/13 , V 8yo , Baby 2yo

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