Re: "Stealing Privileges/Showing Responsibility" - Can We Flesh This Out?
I don't know if I'm answering the question you are asking but I'm going to give it a go.
In our house each child has a set of chores they are responsible for daily. It's been this way for years. If they do not do their chores as needed then they may lose their personal media for a day. It is laid out on a sheet on our fridge. It is not done in a punitive way but simple consequences because the natural consequence of not doing dishes is unacceptable to me. Just as the natural consequence of not vacuuming is unacceptable to me. And we certainly cannot go with the natural consequence of not feeding the cat.
My oldest and youngest need to see this laid out clearly. We as parents reserve the right to extend grace when there are extenuating circumstances but more often than not the chores get done. If it is an attitude issue they are informed they may have thier feelings but may not be rude and disrespectful in communicating them which include treating our family belongings with respect.
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