[Emerald Orchid]

I yelled last night, a few times, at DS1. After our nap, I only wanted to be my introverted self and have the kids play nicely by themselves. Of course, that was utopia, so it didn't happen and I was very impatient. I told Zac a few times "You annoy me so much!" Even DH thought he was handful though this morning, he's sassing us a lot and we're not too sure how to deal with it.

Originally Posted by urbanfamily

Also ladies, how did you find your ability to be patient change with subsequent children? I have two boys but went through toddlerhood only once yet...[

I'm finding that I'm more patient with Milan than I am with Zac, but he also a more easygoing child. I hardly yell/get mad at Milan for things that I know triggered me with Zac.

Originally Posted by Dovenoir

Wish I knew what to do with this anger. I have violent visions before I get to the yelling point. Scared the little girl I nanny today after she bit DS again, I saw myself knocking her to the floor. Didn't do it. removed screaming baby from room calmed him and then blew my top yelling when she started disemboweling the wipes container.

Violent visions do happen to me too. When they are happening, I tell myself "you are angry, you will never act on it, calm down". I take a deep breath and lock myself in the bathroom if I need to calm down. It's best that I move away at that moment, it helps my thoughts refocus.