[tigerlily]

f there is a consequence for something then I declare it in effect immediately upon them refusing and when they realize what has happened and want to correct it I let them. Similar to the 'redo' idea but all they have to do is announce that they will do it and then the consequence is undone, so to speak. It let's them get the chance to make that poor choice and then still make the good one thumbs up

So your saiying that in the middle of, say, helping a child to her room, if the attitude changes allow child to go back to former activity?