[Beatrice]

I think you should spend more time together. It always helps when relations with children becomes difficult. Also I noticed that mentioning some small things they like, like favourite color or food, works really well. Try to figure out what is your mistake as parent from your childrens' view. Sometimes we can't understand what's wrong just because we are adults. About yalling, it's the way to say "you don't hear me" that usually means "you don't understand me". You know what makes your kid nervous, try to avoid these topics. Try to talk with your husband about it, tell him that he has to be not only a friend to kids, but an authority also. You always have to do what you've told. In case of promises and punishment also.