Re: help me with my comfort corner
Adding a thought to this thread. I think, sometimes, when a parent comes from a punitive mindset, they try to impose the Comfort Corner (or the Five Steps) in the same way they would a punishment.
The Comfort Corner and The Five Steps are not cornerstones. They are tools. They don't work in every situation; they are not meant to.
If I child threw a toy, for example, I would not use the Five Steps or the Comfort Corner. I'd take the toy away for a while (or the day, or the week depending on the age of the child). If the same child is throwing often, I'd use The Comfort Corner. If the child throws everyday, I'd use a form of proactive discipline that gets the throwing need met appropriately.
For immediate "stop" or "start" behaviors, I will use the Five Steps or a simple Get Off Your Butt parenting.
GBD isn't about a "technique" or "punishment" that is universally employed to teach children. It's about relationship, coaching, natural consequences and age appropriate logical, related consequences.
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