[greenemama]

that is a very helpful reminder, joanne.

This is what I was going to ask too. With us it's a 1.5 yr old and a 5 yr old, put we still have the same problem. How do I go about getting the 5 year old to go to the corner while the one yr old was jilted and needs me too? Especially if it's the baby that she needs the break from?

we do something kind of like what quiet spirit suggests. i take henry (2.5) to the CC and then i go to the baby. of course, the baby isn't really wounded or something that needs instant mommy, he's more insulted by whatever happened between the two of them. having the CC has really helped me attend to the baby while knowing that henry is in a safe spot and is regrouping, etc. once the baby is calm i get him interested in something, etc., and go to henry to see if he wants me to sit with him, or whatever.

i'm totally new at this, but quiet spirit's posts have helped me to understand what i'm doing.